In the reality of this life, we have a situation where marriage is like sleeping with a hand grenade under you pillow. The slightes move and you get your head blown off, now if we take a look at 1 corinthians 13, the love passage, we see a whole lot that many of us are not living up to.
1 we can be very impatient
We have no time for nonsense, either it’s my way or the highway, not remembering that God had time to put up with us and that’s why he took the time to send his only son, who did no wrong and certainly had no sin, to die in our place, what a patient God. The Bible says that the son should not go down on our rath or anger, that is why we are admonished to be angry but not to sin in the process, if we get this wrong our marriages will not heal.
2 we can be very unkind
Why do we think that it is ok to be unkind one to another? The bible says to be tender hearted forgiving one another, instead we speak very unkind words to each other, forgetting that the word of God also let’s us know, that we are not to let any corrupt communication come out of our mouth, however it’s always too late to take it back after we have already spoken.
3 we can be puffed up with our own self importance and self righteousness.
Why do we feel that some how we are better than our spouse, why do we one see that we are all sinners needing a savior and no one is normally innocent in failing Marriages, there is always enough blame to go around on both sides, especially when we have lost all humility.
4 we love to keep score
The bible says that God will blot out all of our sins and cast them in the sea of forgetfulness, what an awesome feeling to know that God will forget about our sins and misdeeds, so let me ask a question then why under heaven we fail to forgive and forget, this brings to mind the young man in the book of luke who ask Jesus how many times must he forgive his brother if he sins against him, and the answer was in a nut shell as many times as you need to. One of the things I do realize and it’s that it’s not easy for some of us to forgive, however the bible warns us that we are to practice forgiveness with our brothers and Sisters, if in turn we want God to forgive us, forgiveness is not an option it’s a command so please get it right.
5 we speak evil of each other
It is sometimes very easy to speak evil of each other, you see han emotions can get the best of us and we say the first thing that comes to our mind, especially in a heated argument, again be angry and sin not, you see if you walk in the spirit you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh which includes speaking evil of each other. A failing Marriage is not an easy thing to bring back in line, but with God’s help it can be done, if you are reading this blog and find yourself in a failing Marriage I pray today that God will intervene, and bring restoration and that forgiveness and Love will have their perfect way in the relationship, as the power of God moves to bring about a total transformation in Jesus name Amen.👍